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I'm really glad I found this place, you seem to be a sane bunch of people. In June I met a man online, we have become very close, talking for hours daily on the phone and many emails. We are 150 miles apart and have seen each other 6 times on weekends. We are serious enough to be discussing a future together. We're compatible in many areas. I've been divorced for 10 years, his wife of 30 years left him last Feb., he has filed for divorce and it should be finalized next Feb. There are two serious issues in the way - one is that I'm a city person and he's a country person. I may be able to adapt to country living but I need to spend some time in the country before I know how I feel about that. Which brings me to the other issue, which is driving me crazy, and has almost caused me to end the relationship a few times. He has 3 daughters, 26, 22, and 18, all very opposed to me, because it's "too soon". He's only started talking about the divorce since July and they are shaken up about it, so I'm somewhat "the bad guy" although I don't know what they all thought would happen when their Mom left. She is saying that she was willing to work on the marriage (not according to the counsellor last June- she said there was no hope). He is dead scared of "losing" his daughters, also scared that they will tell their Mom about me and she will get pissed off and take vengeance on him financially (no boyfriend in the picture). He's afraid of losing his shirt. So I have agreed to keep a low profile until after the divorce. He says at that point he will insist that his daughters meet me and at least be civil to me. The biggest thorn in my side is his youngest daughter Amy. When his wife left, it was just Murray and Amy in the house and she is a classic Daddy's girl. They would cuddle on the couch watching TV. She would make him watch her play computer games and bake muffins. Never had a boyfriend although she looks attractive in her pictures. She would usually stay home on the weekends. Now she's away at University in the same city as me, he thought we would have some freedom because he's alone now. No way!! I visited him once on the farm, she found out and had a hysterical fit and her sisters backed her up. She demanded that he break up with me, and he's been a nervous wreck ever since (so have I). He can't break up with me, he says he can't live without me but he can't live with the stress either. He has stopped telling me that he loves me, but I know that, if anything, his love is growing. He saw me last weekend because I told him that I was just missing him too much, I needed to see him. He ended up spending six hours with Amy and had a meltdown with her because her Mom was playing mind-games. He feels SO guilty to be putting the kid through the emotional trauma of a divorce and the mother is kind of emotionally abusive (she used to hit the kids too). And on top of it, she's really homesick and going through culture shock too (a country kid in the city). Anyway, when Murray said good-bye to me, he had another major melt-down. He feels so torn between his kids and me, but his loyalty is definitely to his family and I'm last on his list of priorities, he's made that quite clear, especially now, he says he needs to make sure Amy's firmly made the transition to university and needs his 100% support. I admire him for being a good father, but I'm just getting vibes that the father-daughter attachment here is just a little bit over-the-top, and that this girl is ferociously jealous of me, and knows exactly which buttons to push. I can't see her magically accepting me next Feb. and releasing him from all his guilt. There was a huge emotional void in her parents' marriage as it was, and once Mom moved out, Amy became the only woman in her Dad's life. I don't think she's about to give up that position. And I've noticed that every time I mention anything to do with boys and Amy, he doesn't seem to be open to that topic at all. When I mentioned to him that I think Amy simply doesn't want to share her Dad with me, you know what he told me? That she sends him text messages on his cell phone - just three words - "I love you". And as he was telling me this, he was choking back the tears. Well, that just felt like more than I could handle. Well? Help me out here. Am I over-reacting? Sorry this is so long but I haven't discussed it with anyone other than my Mom and it feels really good to get it off my chest. I really care for this guy but he may as well be married and I may as well be the other woman for all the sneaking around I'm doing and the shame and guilt I'm being made to feel! She and/or the other daughters go home for the weekends and I'm not even supposed to call when they are around, and if they walk in when he's on the phone to me, he will just abruptly hang up the phone on me. I've never been involved with a married man before, and he's legally separated, but I feel like he's got three jealous wives watching over him!!! Okay, this is turning into a rant, I'll take a deep breath and stop now. Thanks to all who have listened.

Capshaw

Quite how remaining single can cause harm to anyone is beyond me.

Batcave

weird but hot

Recoupe

skinny hot

Rules

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Rucks

This from the guy who made his wife some bullsh*t chicken dinner for her birthday... didn't even buy her a gift or anything to go along with it...

Sanders

incredible, beyond perfection, goddess-like, beyond the ability of mortal men to understand or aspire to

Tambac

Hi.I am shy funny fun and unique way with a little flash! I like to listening to music watch tv cooking good foods and hanging out with my friends.

Excels

I show up at the bar, look for her, go to the dance-floor, and what happened next is unclear/hazy. I see her, with some dude all over her (trying to grab her or already grabbing her), dancing. She sees me there, her face changes completely, and she comes up to me. I just go "what's going on?" and she swears to me nothing. She claims she was pushing him off her. The thing is, she had a smile on her face, not sure if it was an awkward smile or a "I'm loving this attention smile". Her friends immediately came up to me to tell me that nothing had happened. She swears that nothing happened, she says the universe is against her because she was at the bar for an hour+ and I happened to show up for the 2-3 seconds where some guy was all over her/trying to be all over her. Thing is, I don't know whether she pushed him off BEFORE she saw me or if she pushed him off BECAUSE she saw me.

Sardian

No

Inevitable

so underappreciated. what a body.

Flaster

Hi.wanna chat add me as a frien.

Ascetic

it's called the photoshop sponge tool guys...

Varrick

Take the normal everyday action, thought, et cetera, put it in a box, gift wrap it, shake it up, open, and be completely suprised..thats me. Taking the normal and doing what i can to make it fun. .

Zooooom

WOW!!Perfection:):)

Tirr

About 6 weeks in he said he was starting to have feelings for me, but he still had feelings for his ex. At that point is was too late. I already really liked the guy. Why does there always have to be a problem,. I'm tired of every man I date having some sort of reason for being unavailable. Deep down I knew I should have moved on at that point, but I stuck around for another two weeks.

Leonite

It sounds like you have something there but, communication is key. My GF has the phone habbit as well but, I also understand she is also very busy with her career and has friends to, its definitly a possiblity. Relationships, all they need is time.